It all finally worked out, my wife’s hard work bore fruit, and she got a job in Surrey, more than two years ago. We also got pregnant at the same time as we moved to the UK, and life is been pretty fucking sweet since then.
There are those nasty bits from time to time, but for the most part, it’s been pretty fucking sweet.
Healing, in fact.
I’m finally becoming my own person.
And it looks like I am on my way to realizing my full potential.
I haven’t been writing though, so there’s a lot that I’ve contained within myself. I was just reading my old post The Evil Within Islam and was surprised at how angry I used to be. At the world, at Pakistan, at Muslims and at Islam.
Now I guess I just don’t care that much anymore? But I do still care.
It’s really nice to live in London, have multicultural friends, and have your own family with no bullshit to deal with on a day to day basis.
Perhaps this would be a good place to be (mentally) to start writing again. So here we are. It’s a start.
I will try to make it a habit to share a few thoughts every day and let’s see how it goes.
My friends – graduates of ‘elite’ schools such as LUMS and IBA couldn’t help but (mis)use the rape analogy as they discussed the Brazil vs Germany FIFA Football World Cup match.
“What a rape. 33 minutes and 0-5,” said one.
“Rape is an understatement,” declared another.
“Balatkar. Nazreen.” said another.
This is how I found out the result for that particular match. As I tried to correct them about how they used the word ‘rape’, I was told how I’m “such a woman” and a “feminist”. Our group is all about leg-pulling for fun, so one even went on to ask me about what did they do to me when I was young – suggesting I got raped as a kid and hence the sensitivity. Of course I didn’t entertain them with my stories – these friends of mine are obviously beyond reason when it comes to their inherent sexism and they won’t understand how they’re only upholding traditional patriarchal values.
What I fail to understand is, how did a bunch guys with a great ability to reason – so much so that they all passed the SATs or the LUMS admission test to get in – which uses tons of analogies in its verbal sections – not be able to understand why the rape metaphor is damaging for our backward society? These are the people who should be leading the awareness campaign in Pakistan – if not them, then who else?